
Retired NFL Linebacker Junior Seau was found dead in his California home Wednesday morning from an apparent self-inflicted gunshot wound to the chest. Despite previous domestic violence arrests and an incident where his SUV plunged off a cliff, Seau was described as a happy, positive guy. So many times, it seems, someone who, from the outside appears to have it all together, ends up taking their own life. This is referred to as a ‘private hell’, where someone in distress is able to put on a show of being alright. Generally, suicides are a result of the culmination of a lot of pain, not one particular incident. In Seau’s case, since he left no suicide note, we may never know the reasons why the former San Diego Charger, Miami Dolphin and New England Patriot took his own life.
Junior Seau’s death is a tragedy, but perhaps we can turn the tragedy into a call to action. There are several things we need to think about in the wake of this terrible event.
1. Athlete Mental Health
Sports psychologists work with people in the NFL, NHL, MLB, NBA and other sports leagues. But what happens once the player leaves the game? Do they still have access to the same psychologists that know how fame, wealth, and sometimes disappointment affect professional athletes? Also, what role do concussions and other head traumas have in altering the mind? Is the price of fame too high? Especially once the limelight fades, how do public figures then derive their self-worth?
2. The Power of Friendship
Pay attention. Someone who may seem to have it all together could be suffering in ways only they know. If we don’t bother to ask, they may not bother to share. But often, a person who has a lot on their plate doesn’t have a great support system or someone they can trust. Could you be that confidant for a friend? A quick call or text to say hello, or a reminder of “I love you” can do wonders. Also never assume that someone is just kidding when they threaten to harm themselves. Be proactive. Everyone needs to know that someone cares about them and what they’re going through.
3. It Gets Better
You know that saying, “If you’re going through hell…keep going?” It’s true. You are perfect, just as you are. Drop negative influences from your life. Talk to someone. Write in a diary. Remind yourself every day about the people and things you live for. If you feel like you don’t want to live anymore, there are resources out there to help you. Your friends and family would be devastated if you left this Earth, and you have so much left to offer this world – why leave it before everyone can see how amazing you truly are?
At Pro Football Chick, we are passionate about helping those in need. To that end, we have compiled a list of phone numbers, links, and other resources to help. Please utilize them yourself, or pass them along to someone you may know who could use them:
Suicide Prevention Resource Center
Suicide Awareness
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
Befrienders Hotline by State
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